tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post3567575370679584815..comments2023-11-05T05:56:59.725-05:00Comments on Mrs. Furious ... Recipes, Rants & Reality: Hear Ye, Hear YeMrs Furioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-7998779076671616672010-03-11T12:14:33.502-05:002010-03-11T12:14:33.502-05:00I think most of your regs "get it." I lo...I think most of your regs "get it." I love your honesty and the way you actually process things (as opposed to me who just stuffs it all down until I snap). I only wish I could be as open and thought provoking as you. Strength woman - that's what you's gots!P.O.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16410533843419723414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-5888913907981279102010-03-10T20:26:52.092-05:002010-03-10T20:26:52.092-05:00i know i've said this before but i love readin...i know i've said this before but i love reading your blog. it makes me laugh when i've had a bad day, it makes me feel like someone else understands when i can relate to what you are going through, and it has taught me a lot. my husband it so grateful for your recipes and compacting tips;)!!! thanks for continuing with it all. i think about your family often and am still hoping, praying, sending good things your way. you deserve it!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06254832892874809466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-63673028949505239992010-03-10T17:31:45.708-05:002010-03-10T17:31:45.708-05:00Rob,
Thanks
"It is amazing to me that you are...Rob,<br />Thanks<br />"<i>It is amazing to me that you are able to drill down and come up with such useful information from your past.</i>"<br />Seventeen years of therapy helped in that department.Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-51364823246652158622010-03-10T15:26:31.477-05:002010-03-10T15:26:31.477-05:00It is amazing to me that you are able to drill dow...It is amazing to me that you are able to drill down and come up with such useful information from your past. I have so few memories from my childhood. <br /><br />Your blog rocks and so do you!!Robhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13665543319978248355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-31034513906439130212010-03-10T13:12:13.285-05:002010-03-10T13:12:13.285-05:00Sorry about Murphy. Just remember (I'm sure yo...<i>Sorry about Murphy. Just remember (I'm sure you do) that the diagnosis doesn't change the kid. </i> Oh, I know. We are actually relieved. Hey, it could have been worse;) <br /><br />We all were in such a better mood after the diagnosis. It was like 'Thank God it <i>is</i> ADHD." We were afraid it was all due to us screwing him up or something;) <br /><br />That said, he is still the same nugget of fun and cuteness, except when he is total pain in the ass;)Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244649713390780027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-57747873363052913162010-03-10T11:40:40.707-05:002010-03-10T11:40:40.707-05:00P/F,
"by writing this blog you make it possib...P/F,<br />"<i>by writing this blog you make it possible for many of us (or at least me)to process our own feelings that we'd probably try to deny or keep buried otherwise</i>"<br />Awesome. That makes me feel really good. Thanks.<br /><br /><br />Loralei,<br />Thanks<br /><br />Liz,<br />"<i>being from a divorced family makes you feel differently about these things!</i>"<br />It's really true. I think this can't be underestimated in these kind of situations. There are a lot of times that I want to write about how growing up with divorced parents has profoundly effected almost every major part of my life as an adult. Maybe one day I will...<br /><br /><br />Gigs,<br />"<i>But know that secretly I feel like you are doing for me too!</i>"<br />I am ;)<br /><br />Julie,<br />"<i> Or somehow qualify it? </i>"<br />That's the thing that always gets me. Because of the public format of this I always feel like I have to somehow set the stage for my complaints instead of just letting them out. It always pisses me off when I cave to that impulse. I wish there wasn't that large cultural pressure that our feelings are only acceptable if they are positive. <br /><br />Sorry about Murphy. Just remember (I'm sure you do) that the diagnosis doesn't change the kid. <br /><br /><br />Deb,<br />omg on that site was a story of an Indian girl forced to marry a dog. I might have to bookmark Weird Asia News. It delivers as promised.<br /><br />Kiki,<br />Thank you.<br /><br />SK,<br />I'm planning my trip to World Market for Easter candy and interesting drink mixers on Friday! <br /><br /><br />Andrea,<br />"<i>because genuinely I feel I do better sending postive vibes to somebody</i>"<br />What a different world it would be if everyone followed suit.Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-66179152687105196722010-03-10T10:57:05.246-05:002010-03-10T10:57:05.246-05:00I feel like I'm in a situation very similar to...I feel like I'm in a situation very similar to the one that you're in; but not quite as far in the process.<br /><br />Right now, because of the true sense of limbo we're navigating around, I'm not able to think of anything else or process my feelings about what's going on at all. I'm exercising to get rid of some of the stress, but there is no reason that I have to have a chocolate bar 4 times/week. <br /><br />I read your post the other day about the feelings that the move/separation bring up and it makes me more aware of some of my husband's reservations in leaving us here for a couple of months. He hasn't been alone ironically since he lived with his mother before college. <br /><br />I also know that I often am afraid that I'll unintentionally say the wrong thing when trying to offer words of support, so I avoid saying anything. I just want to let you know that I think that you're doing an amazing job with your family, and by writing this blog you make it possible for many of us (or at least me)to process our own feelings that we'd probably try to deny or keep buried otherwise.P/Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07011597977129472269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-29068717420457118802010-03-10T09:46:53.696-05:002010-03-10T09:46:53.696-05:00Ive thought about your post all night I couldnt sl...Ive thought about your post all night I couldnt sleep and kept thinking about why do others have a response of oh it could be worse or look on the bright side or we do have this this and this, why cant pople say I understand or hey if you need anything let me know or hell keep it shut.I have never been able to tell people it could be worse because I sort of fell that if I do and it does become worse or the situation becomes more daunting then I feel guilty. I will listen and respond with I hope things get better and I hope you know Im here for you, because genuinely I feel I do better sending postive vibes to somebody. Then make them feel worse even if its not meant that way. I love that your open yourself up to everyone on your blog I believe it helps others open up too.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06847721520965081711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-44738658463575118542010-03-10T00:15:02.764-05:002010-03-10T00:15:02.764-05:00Yeah, "things could be worse" translates...Yeah, "things could be worse" translates better from oneself rather than from other people, lol!<br /><br />I haven't been to therapy, but when I am feeling sad or stressed, I make a list of everything that is bothering me. Then, I can actually "cross-off" the things I have NO control over, prioritize the things I can take control of, and finally get to sleep.<br /><br />Let us know when you're having a cocktail--I'll have one with you down here in Texas!<br />:)Texas Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08421251204103354400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-30013739698706580782010-03-09T21:58:20.153-05:002010-03-09T21:58:20.153-05:00You know I know, I see your heart and while I may ...You know I know, I see your heart and while I may not feel how you're feeling....you are entitled to feel it and express it on what is in fact, YOUR BLOG. I wouldn't expect any less than the authentic you....and I love that about you!!!Kikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03206946600984174783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-34509955243659528102010-03-09T21:11:34.427-05:002010-03-09T21:11:34.427-05:00P.S. I love Julie's comment on this thread--th...P.S. I love Julie's comment on this thread--that bit about having to justify or feel guilty is so right-- and I have TOTALLY cried over things as seemingly innocuous as a messed up burrito bowl.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13850825844277186930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-84108189867683991292010-03-09T21:10:10.061-05:002010-03-09T21:10:10.061-05:00LOL... Actually, I wasn't trolling it. That bi...LOL... Actually, I wasn't trolling it. That bit about "you could be living in a basketball" was a joke a co-worker of mine and I used to use whenever someone started down the path of "it could be worse". I can't even begin to tell you how we found out about that new story. I figured giving you the link might give you a smile. I've actually blogged about how irritated I get when people say that, because as well-meaning as it is, all it does is invalidate the recipient's feelings.<br /><br />And, yes, the limbo is a major emotional obstacle for Control Freak Me, as well. Someday in the near future, I'll know where we'll be living, then the work can begin.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13850825844277186930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-15572373870706287762010-03-09T18:47:55.545-05:002010-03-09T18:47:55.545-05:00these feelings that are being wrestled up LOL...I ...<i>these feelings that are being wrestled up</i> LOL...I meant to write 'rustled up', not wrestled up. But hey, it is kind of like wrestling...the feelings are trying to beat the hell out you or vice versa;)Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244649713390780027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-55885115751564532022010-03-09T16:47:53.983-05:002010-03-09T16:47:53.983-05:00I totally get you. I think it is so interesting wh...I totally get you. I think it is so interesting when we can figure out why we may be feeling the way we are...where the roots are. <br /><br />Yeah, things can always be worse, but shit, things CAN be better,too. Why do we always have to feel guilty for for our feelings? Or somehow qualify it? Obviously you are not sitting on your couch crying all day over these feelings that are being wrestled up...you have kids and other people's kids to take care of, but this blog is the place to get that rough stuff out there so you can better understand yourself and be present with your present:) It's better than having a complete breakdown over one's burrito order not coming out right...or you know, whatever doesn't go the way you want and need it to at the time. <br /><br />Um yes, I completely, and I mean completely, broke down crying last week when Tom brought home a burrito bowl for me and it was was messed up. Obviously, my breakdown was not about the burrito, but without an outlet that's sometimes what happens. <br /><br />I love you, kid. Oh and you, too, Kid...and Baby and Mr F, too. <br /><br />PS Murph just got diagnosed as ADHD (with an emphasis on the "H") yesterday. Eventually I will blog about all the freaking shit we have been up to here.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244649713390780027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-58801092403491792262010-03-09T14:27:41.377-05:002010-03-09T14:27:41.377-05:00Mrs. F - I love the real emotion and I definitely ...Mrs. F - I love the real emotion and I definitely love the sarcasm. I always find it gratifying to check in here and find so many people who share similar feelings and a common sense of humor, even on days when I don't comment. So, certainly do it for you...But know that secretly I feel like you are doing for me too! :)Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02625501000684450886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-43964830881550116162010-03-09T14:01:12.467-05:002010-03-09T14:01:12.467-05:00When my husband "ditched" us two months ...When my husband "ditched" us two months ago to start a new job across the country, I also felt abandoned and shackled with all the responsibility (being from a divorced family makes you feel differently about these things!). A few weeks into it, when I had moved past the fear- I honestly felt like I was thriving. I was stepping up to the challenge and that was so rewarding. <br /><br />Just like Kellie said, "you rock". I love your blog, because it IS real and you aren't trying to sugar coat these difficult life situations and transitions. Some of us can barely process the day to day, let alone look within and try to sort out what makes us tick. Good for you for going there!Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06885052124131453203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-40561058258255962382010-03-09T12:15:09.816-05:002010-03-09T12:15:09.816-05:00I, for one, am envious of your ability to "ge...I, for one, am envious of your ability to "get it out there" so you can process what you need to. <br /><br />Keep on doing what you are doing Mrs. F. You know what works best for you.Loraleihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10457193171845317701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-82052934753115723912010-03-09T11:21:00.877-05:002010-03-09T11:21:00.877-05:00Deb,
How did you happen to be trolling the Weird A...Deb,<br />How did you happen to be trolling the Weird Asia News website? <br />limbo is no good. I'm way too controlling. It really is like a hell on Earth for me to sit here and just wait. <br /><br /><br />trifitmom,<br />sorry to hear you're sick now too. <br />"<i>there are so many things that i think EVERYONE feels and when i discuss with hubby he explains to me NO. </i>"<br />This just happened around here when I was telling Mr F that I think everyone thinks that putting away groceries and cleaning are beneath them. He told me that was probably just me. Hmm. <br /><br />Kellie,<br />thanks. I think there is large group of people who get what I'm doing but there is another group that when I start to talk feelings (or even when I'm just really sarcastic) take things too literally.Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-66985967148244559292010-03-09T10:34:13.421-05:002010-03-09T10:34:13.421-05:00"It was one of those classic "things cou..."It was one of those classic "things could be worse" suggestions coming from someone who meant well..."<br /><br />Things can always be worse, can't they? I hate the implication that you can't just wallow in your negative thoughts occasionally without someone marching in and saying, "Well it could be worse. You could be living in a basketball." (http://www.weirdasianews.com/2008/12/22/qian-hongyan-basketball-girl/)<br /><br />Your blog is real, Mrs. F. That's what makes it interesting. Your post yesterday made me stop and think about my family's limbo living situation and think about my own taproots. I appreciate that.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13850825844277186930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-6362129118334555512010-03-09T09:39:03.532-05:002010-03-09T09:39:03.532-05:00It was one of those classic "things could be ...It was one of those classic "things could be worse" suggestions coming from someone who meant well, but at the end of the day, that's not a response that Mrs F is looking for.Mr Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03781439243585972721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-78197399407246816622010-03-09T08:57:33.195-05:002010-03-09T08:57:33.195-05:00taproot, LOVE IT. i just had one of these at my th...taproot, LOVE IT. i just had one of these at my therapist office and she explained it to me. she said our childhood and what we went through is in us cellularly. it makes so much sense. i swear there are so many things that i think EVERYONE feels and when i discuss with hubby he explains to me NO. and when i talk with therapist she explains NO. growing. learning. it is all good. <br /><br />going on our 5th day with someone sick in the house and staying in. FUN stuff.justmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05081885076553861768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-46105947736669054202010-03-09T08:56:07.121-05:002010-03-09T08:56:07.121-05:00Mrs. F,
Not sure what happened, if someone said s...Mrs. F,<br /> Not sure what happened, if someone said something not so nice or what. If so, they don't have to read your blog. I think your situation is stressful and in a word, sucks, for right now. I love reading your blog...you rock!Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14817998832082581186noreply@blogger.com