tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post5435649612520927675..comments2023-11-05T05:56:59.725-05:00Comments on Mrs. Furious ... Recipes, Rants & Reality: Mind ControlMrs Furioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-3658223979052480172008-03-03T14:15:00.000-05:002008-03-03T14:15:00.000-05:00Kiki,here is the LINKIt is the segment about Jerom...Kiki,<BR/>here is the <A HREF="http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=19008602" REL="nofollow">LINK</A><BR/>It is the segment about Jerome C. Wakefield and his book 'The Loss of Sadness".Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-72238448722648616862008-03-03T08:51:00.000-05:002008-03-03T08:51:00.000-05:00Kiki,I'll try to do a search and see if I can get ...Kiki,<BR/>I'll try to do a search and see if I can get you the link. check back tonight.<BR/>I'm pretty sure it was a male professor from Chapel Hill... and it was probably on Talk of The Nation.Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-78423464456567969002008-03-02T22:13:00.000-05:002008-03-02T22:13:00.000-05:00I wonder if I did an NPR search if I could find a ...I wonder if I did an NPR search if I could find a copy of that. I did read something sort of similar in a book by Joan Didion, when she lost her husband and daughter all in the same year. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for your compassion and understanding, I am grateful, truly.Kikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03206946600984174783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-38824722073056084272008-03-02T22:03:00.000-05:002008-03-02T22:03:00.000-05:00Kiki,I'm sure time will help but I don't think it ...Kiki,<BR/>I'm sure time will help but I don't think it is unreasonable to still feel some level of grief for a long time if not forever. I was actually listening to a very interesting interview on NPR a little while back about different cultures and the norm for grief and it is no surprise that our culture has a very low tolerance for it and thinks it isn't "healthy" if you are still mourning past the first year. In other cultures it is completely normal and expected.Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-61172233706197196072008-03-02T19:49:00.000-05:002008-03-02T19:49:00.000-05:00Thanks, its strange...it doesn't get any easier, I...Thanks, its strange...it doesn't get any easier, I thought it would, but it stings and every day I wake up and I remember "Oh yeah, my dad isn't here anymore." Its been three years this year, maybe it just takes time. Those steps of grief though...a total joke!Kikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03206946600984174783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-32335263445512251312008-03-02T09:41:00.000-05:002008-03-02T09:41:00.000-05:00Kiki,I'm sorry to hear about your father. :(Kiki,<BR/>I'm sorry to hear about your father. :(Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-91384768156408990632008-03-01T23:26:00.000-05:002008-03-01T23:26:00.000-05:00I had to stop reading gossip magazines when I drea...I had to stop reading gossip magazines when I dreamed that Tom and Katie were interviewing me to be a nanny for Suri and I was trying to get away...escape. I woke up in a sweat. The other thing I ban is magazines that have ads for smoking...my dad died from it...I'm still bitter.Kikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03206946600984174783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-69722615209189969252008-03-01T21:32:00.000-05:002008-03-01T21:32:00.000-05:00P.O.M.,I especially hate Shape magazine...they alw...P.O.M.,<BR/>I especially hate Shape magazine...they always have some overly thin actress on the cover. It actually wasn't so bad when it first came out but it has changed for the worse over the years.<BR/><BR/>And I think when you have parents like we did snooping is second nature ;)Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-28568503141316888282008-03-01T19:47:00.000-05:002008-03-01T19:47:00.000-05:00OH. PS. I am the master of the SNOOP, too. Always...OH. PS. I am the master of the SNOOP, too. Always have been, always will.P.O.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16410533843419723414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-88886945109570689482008-03-01T19:46:00.000-05:002008-03-01T19:46:00.000-05:00As I am sitting here staring at my "Fitness" magaz...As I am sitting here staring at my "Fitness" magazine, it dawns me - Holy shit. You are totally right. I did always laugh at how they have such thin models on there that there is no way they are healthy. <BR/><BR/>And regarding images - I am really affected by things I watch and can guarantee a dream about it. I had a boyfriend who watched ultimate fighting so i would too. But I had to stop becuase the images of people getting punched would stick in my head.P.O.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16410533843419723414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-51589166527571195522008-03-01T19:32:00.000-05:002008-03-01T19:32:00.000-05:00Sherry,thanks for the link. How erroneous was tha...Sherry,<BR/>thanks for the link. How erroneous was that?! She looks practically flawless in the first pic. Ridiculous.Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-1483693558287001322008-03-01T17:18:00.000-05:002008-03-01T17:18:00.000-05:00Here's the link:http://www.fitsugar.com/419860Here's the link:<BR/><BR/>http://www.fitsugar.com/419860Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18140010370631217574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-60159202446047711612008-03-01T14:37:00.000-05:002008-03-01T14:37:00.000-05:00sorry guys I've been having the hardest time getti...sorry guys I've been having the hardest time getting blogger to work today!<BR/><BR/><BR/>Kelly O,<BR/>"<I>What You Think About, You Bring About </I>"<BR/>That really is so true. I've seen it again and again in myself and those around me. I'm currently hoping to help snap someone in my life out of negative spiral... it is so hard to see when you are on your way down!<BR/><BR/>Sherry,<BR/>Would have loved to have seen that picture! Mr F does that for a living so I am well aware how perfected images become.Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-65822777448786507462008-03-01T01:06:00.000-05:002008-03-01T01:06:00.000-05:00Kelly O. had sent me a link where you saw Faith Hi...Kelly O. had sent me a link where you saw Faith Hill on the cover of some magazine then you saw the real photo that was taken before it was air brushed. What a HUGE difference. In no way, shape, or form did she look bad to begin with. In the after product, it looked like she had pencils for arms.Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18140010370631217574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-52012960545309788442008-02-29T23:39:00.000-05:002008-02-29T23:39:00.000-05:00And I used to subscribe to all these magazines but...And I used to subscribe to all these magazines but got soooo tired of the overkill in airbrushing, overkill in showing off an outfit that costs more than most people's annual salaries, and overkill in obnoxious sex stories.....how many different versions of that must we see? And who are the scary people that read that and adhere to it? I've let my subscriptions run out because they do ruin self esteem and showcase a totally unrealistic ideal. I'm still amazed that advertisers aren't jumping on the Dove type bandwagons using real people with GASP flaws!!Kelly Olexahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17831405527385476916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-51079411373860955322008-02-29T23:37:00.000-05:002008-02-29T23:37:00.000-05:00Mrs. F - so so true! I just was posting a whole th...Mrs. F - so so true! I just was posting a whole thing on my blog the other day, called "Believe" ~ and that's it because - What You Think About, You Bring About - Thoughts Become Things etc. This is all so true and better yet -UNDER OUR CONTROL. I've had the same thing with dreams too ~ that's (sadly) why I won't watch the news either because the bad will haunt me. And we all have to decide what we will choose to accept in our lives - criticism and doubt from dream stealers - NO THANK YOU. If I gave in and listened to that nonsense, I would never have made the strides I am making now. Instead what I now do is decide how I feel about things, where I stand - and if someone's view or opinion or whatever is not in alignment, I'm not accepting the negativity and most likely, I will avoid interacting with that person or persons. <BR/><BR/>If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything.<BR/><BR/>Great Quote!Kelly Olexahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17831405527385476916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-5757848788684148672008-02-29T23:18:00.000-05:002008-02-29T23:18:00.000-05:00Amy,Rated R huh? That would kind of rule out all ...Amy,<BR/>Rated R huh? That would kind of rule out all the major negatives. I'm going through my Tivo tomorrow and erasing all the crime shows and what not I have set to record and trying to find more positive shows to unwind/workout to.Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-46347674354292404022008-02-29T22:30:00.000-05:002008-02-29T22:30:00.000-05:00Bravo! I have a blanket rule about Rated R movies....Bravo! I have a blanket rule about Rated R movies. You'd be surprised what that weeds out. A whole lot of crap! I love what you said about keeping the magazines out of the house. I too don't have any but not because I've committed - they just don't appeal to me because like you, they just end up making me wistful and resentful. Good for you!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15167781724086312806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-492896969663917572008-02-29T19:56:00.000-05:002008-02-29T19:56:00.000-05:00Katieo,We have a similar situation with the Prince...Katieo,<BR/>We have a similar situation with the Princesses. Kid has actually only ever seen Little Mermaid and only maybe 2 times... yet she knows all the characters of all the movies. Some of that is from the girls in school and some of that is from our Disney trips. She has sensitive skin and hates the dress up dresses so she is often cast as the "ugly step sister" or "Cinderella as a maid" or a boy... things that probably won't be helping her self-esteem much ;) I've bought her two disney nightgowns that are comfortable but have big princesses on the front that she wears instead now and that seems to make her happy for now anyway.Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-13700807427635586622008-02-29T19:50:00.000-05:002008-02-29T19:50:00.000-05:00Julie,Oh that is fine... I just wanted to be clear...Julie,<BR/>Oh that is fine... I just wanted to be clear that she really had come out with that herself. I work really hard to reveal no affect when she says it just "hmm... I don't think so. " But when pressed it is true that none of the princess do and when I did an online search for "pretty girls with glasses" all I got was porn! <BR/><BR/>"<I>They have no qualms calling out another person's child if they are acting up</I>"<BR/>I just noticed this at a party over the weekend... and it is true that this never happens among the mom's. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Another boy/girl difference is crushes. Kid has had a crush on an older boy she was in school with last year. She talks about marrying him and me being their kid's grandma. She never forgets and never lets it go. When she's around him she clams up and gets really shy. Of course he could care less about her and girls in general! I also remember totally having crushes on boys from Kindergarten on.Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-51918596939489235862008-02-29T18:47:00.000-05:002008-02-29T18:47:00.000-05:00I hang with a few stay at home Dads and it is so d...I hang with a few stay at home Dads and it is so different how they roll than how the moms that I am friends with do. They have no qualms calling out another person's child if they are acting up and definitely have the "suck it up" attitude...not in a hard ass way, but definitely more matter of fact with their kids than the moms! Again, we all have boys so different ball park here. <BR/><BR/>I don't even know what point this has to do with...Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244649713390780027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-62695728552076607512008-02-29T18:41:00.000-05:002008-02-29T18:41:00.000-05:00Oh Mrs F, I was not implying that you were intervi...Oh Mrs F, I was not implying that you were interviewing for a problem...I was totally talking about myself. I put my own emotional stuff onto my kids....like "oh no, does he not think he fits in" etc etc! This has nothing to do with the very real (and sad:( ) thing that Kid said. I don't have girls and I find it interesting that my boys don't ever mention things about their physical appearance and the other boys don't seem to focus on it with each other either at this point. Unfortunately, it is the girls in Jack's class that are downright nasty to one another. It is so awful and personal. If one of my kids pined to play better soccer, he could practice and practice. Kid can't practice her way out of not wearing glasses. It must have killed you hear her say that. I am so sorry:(<BR/><BR/>I just meant at the end regarding John's comments that I am truly learning that this stuff is just not on the radar of many of the boys and men I am in contact with. I think it is one part innate and one part how these boys are raised...especially the generations before the ones we are raising. No one talked about self esteem when I was growing up. Now it is all I think about in regards to raising my boys. I was shocked to learn that Jack's teacher who is male was not at all aware that some of the girls were being really mean to others. And the boys in the class just play kick ball or talk Pokemon...totally unaware.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244649713390780027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-2202953531156182892008-02-29T18:27:00.000-05:002008-02-29T18:27:00.000-05:00Julie,Oh Kid had already been going through the co...Julie,<BR/>Oh Kid had already been going through the comparison to others regarding both gross and fine motor skills. Last year she wouldn't draw at school at all since she couldn't draw as accurately as the older kids. That is one reason we kept her back. She routinely compared herself to the older kids in class in regards to who could run the fastest, draw the best, read. And yes I believe that much of that is a developmental.<BR/><BR/>But the self evaluation regarding the glasses and her perception of what is pretty is different and I don't think that is a projection. She will point blank tell you that "princesses don't wear glasses". And when I tried to find an image of a pretty girl with glasses in any of her books or toys... NADA. She doesn't want to wear them anymore. I'm just being clear that this wasn't an "interveiwed" problem... she is bringing this up all on her own.Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-79389382918913770462008-02-29T18:12:00.001-05:002008-02-29T18:12:00.001-05:00It was around 5 that my boys started to recognize ...It was around 5 that my boys started to recognize that some boys were better at different sports than them or could spell more words, et. <BR/><BR/>I think kids start to evaluate themselves as they get a little older when their world is less egocentric. One of my sons stopped wanting to draw because he thought he could not draw things the way he thought they should look. <BR/><BR/>It may be one part media/society that contributes to this self-evaluation...but it is also a stage in a child's development as they grow and try to figure out who they are. <BR/><BR/>I tend to interview my children for problems when sometimes they are just simply stating something with out all the emotions that we put on it. Kids will take the cue from you. We just need to encourage and support.<BR/><BR/>I don't think John deserved the harsh words. I truly believe that most men can not understand how girls and women feel in this society. I am learning that from my 2 wonderful little boys. The "mean girls" shit has already started in my 8 year old's 2nd grade class. He is totally oblivious to it as was his male teacher until another mom talked to the teacher about it. It's just a whole different thing with raising boys....Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244649713390780027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-37723498388564243372008-02-29T18:12:00.000-05:002008-02-29T18:12:00.000-05:00The media we let into our house is ridiculously be...The media we let into our house is ridiculously benign. The funny thing is my boys love all sorts of superheroes but have never actually SEEN any of the movies or shows where they are portrayed. (Power Rangers, Spiderman, Batman, etc.)<BR/><BR/>The only exceptions to this have been some old fashioned Superman cartoons from the 50's (which are hilariously UNrealistic) and Some select Star Wars stuff. I know they're going to be exposed a lot of stuff outside of our home So I do try to keep it pretty g-rated... for as long as I can anyway. I just think it's sad and scary when <I>children</I> are desensitized to hardcore violence and/or sexuality so early. <BR/><BR/>I could write a lot more about all of this but don't have the time at the moment. I'll just say I wholeheartedly agree with the entire post.katieohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08339475353059389950noreply@blogger.com