tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post7125772157870971778..comments2023-11-05T05:56:59.725-05:00Comments on Mrs. Furious ... Recipes, Rants & Reality: The Ways In Which I Have Been Wronged TodayMrs Furioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-79725750999242082492007-12-20T12:27:00.000-05:002007-12-20T12:27:00.000-05:00Thanks for asking Mrs F!Yes, I'd rather go by Emil...Thanks for asking Mrs F!<BR/><BR/>Yes, I'd rather go by Emily - the blog is just my latest attempt to avoid drowning in the sea of artwork created by my daughter, and it's how I show up on blogger now I guess.<BR/><BR/>She loves to post to her site, add comments, and then I feel less guilty for not saving all of the stuff. And then her grandparents, etc. can take a look too!<BR/><BR/>Emilywootinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02806282812786913215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-54314995423528566262007-12-18T17:33:00.000-05:002007-12-18T17:33:00.000-05:00deb,well I don't mean everyone needs to do it this...deb,<BR/><BR/>well I don't mean everyone needs to do it this way!<BR/>The more comments I get the harder it is... but of course I'm secretly hoping to go pro ;)Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-70860613858265461372007-12-18T17:07:00.000-05:002007-12-18T17:07:00.000-05:00You're making me rethink my whole policy about not...You're making me rethink my whole policy about not responding to comments. "Because it's a time suck," I say. Then the other side of me says, "But you want to respond to them. Sometimes it kills you not to respond." True. Annoyingly true.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13850825844277186930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-50296016526816428252007-12-17T23:19:00.000-05:002007-12-17T23:19:00.000-05:00Mommytime,Oh hey... sorry about that... I know I w...Mommytime,<BR/>Oh hey... sorry about that... I know I went a wee bit overboard, but it was hard to explain it in a concise manner. I'm sure everyone was like WTF?!?<BR/> Anyway I do know what you are saying and have been to many sites where I am kind of like "why do you <I>even</I> have a comments section?!?"<BR/>Mostly it works because I am a housebound loser! ;)Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-49033017451553563262007-12-17T22:56:00.000-05:002007-12-17T22:56:00.000-05:00Just wanted to thank you for such a long helpful r...Just wanted to thank you for such a long helpful response about how you've created such a great community here. Much appreciated. That's why I keep coming back. (That and the witty reparte and chez Furious.)MommyTimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12860003098383600806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-90180530668188830392007-12-17T22:33:00.000-05:002007-12-17T22:33:00.000-05:00Emily (kid art),I just went to your blog..er your ...Emily (kid art),<BR/>I just went to your blog..er your daughter's blog... so would you prefer to be addressed as Emily?<BR/><BR/>and of course I LOVE your daughter's name ;)Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-69064038863196231802007-12-17T22:29:00.000-05:002007-12-17T22:29:00.000-05:00P.O.M.that's funny.Mr F's has a tough skin and can...P.O.M.<BR/>that's funny.<BR/>Mr F's has a tough skin and can appreciate humor even when it is at his expense... which is fortunate... since I don't just keep score I post it!Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-28729398071565944192007-12-17T22:26:00.000-05:002007-12-17T22:26:00.000-05:00Hi Kid Art,thanks for commenting!good points. Tha...Hi Kid Art,<BR/>thanks for commenting!<BR/>good points. That is what worked for us with Kid also. After many weeks of waking up for a middle of the night meal.. we started moving her "dessert" time later until RIGHT before bed. Worked like a charm. You are right. They sleep close to 12 hours.. I can't go that long without food... I even eat RIGHT before bed (I know its a no no... but seriously I wake up hungry in the night if I don't).<BR/><BR/>and thanks for the compliments :)Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-33804295644983517712007-12-17T22:25:00.000-05:002007-12-17T22:25:00.000-05:00HOly crap I am laughing so hard at the "keeping sc...HOly crap I am laughing so hard at the "keeping score." I want to write lists like that all the time, but must refrain for delicate egos would not be able to handle such things. So I just keep my list safely in my head. ha ha.P.O.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16410533843419723414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-11945358368676200092007-12-17T21:04:00.000-05:002007-12-17T21:04:00.000-05:00Mrs F - love your blog!I can so empathize with the...Mrs F - love your blog!<BR/><BR/>I can so empathize with the cosleeping/nap situation with a baby and older sibling... the exact scenario you describe happened to me so many times!!<BR/><BR/>Just thought I'd add a couple of things regarding the extended nursing/cosleeping choice from the vantage point of being a couple of years removed from it (my kids are 6 and 4 1/2). It retrospect it went by so fast! I have very special memories of those days and I think my kids do to. <BR/><BR/>Both have transitioned to their own beds/own rooms and it is so much easier than cosleeping naysayers would have you think. <BR/><BR/>Especially my second child, my daughter - is so much more independent than her brother. She weaned herself (actually earlier than I would have chosen), decided to sleep in her own bed (all at once, and that was that - she was about 2), potty trained herself in a couple of days. <BR/><BR/>One thing that really helped us eliminate the middle of the night waking in an older baby was a bedtime snack. I used Yo Baby yogurt. Really, when you think about it, when kids eat dinner at a regular time (say, 6ish) - that is a long time for a little one to go until breakfast. No wonder they wake up hungry! The bedtime snack routine was a lifesaver for a year or so until they matured a bit.<BR/><BR/>Enjoy - you have a lovely family!<BR/><BR/>Emilywootinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02806282812786913215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-71877465923855936132007-12-17T13:30:00.000-05:002007-12-17T13:30:00.000-05:00Mommytime,do you really want to know? It takes a ...Mommytime,<BR/>do you really want to know? It takes a bit of work. It didn't start this way... if you read my archives you'll see I didn't have as many commenters (or readers for that matter!). But I think because my first regular readers were Mr F and Chris they came from a more "back and forth talky" blog format from their politcal/sports blogs. So they brought that over here and kind of helped establish the okay for commenters to repeat comment. Heck they will usually go back and forth with you if I'm busy. So I owe them a lot for that! <BR/><BR/>I know for me when I go to a blog even if there are comments back I usually feel weird responding again.. you don't want to annoy the author right? So that is why I put in my sidebar the thing about my desire to comment back and forth. I also am commited to responding to EVERY comment. And when it makes sense to do so I do try to engage the commenter in a conversation. Also I'm always home. I set my blog to email me when I get a new comment and my computer chimes so I can <I>usually</I> comment right back which often catches people while they are still visiting. Also you all know I'll respond so everyone comes back and then there is the opportunity to reengage. Is this too much explanation or what?!? <BR/>(this just happened .. "I said in a minute Kid... I'm writing back to people, that is my job.")<BR/><BR/>Also I write my posts with my audience in mind (nerdy or what) like if I do a serious post I'll try to follow it up with something fluffy. If I do a weight loss post I follow it up with a fashion one.. or whatever. I know I have a diverse group of readers and try to make sure you never have to go more than a day or two before I have something up you can relate to. Believe me I could write stressed out mom posts every. single. day! And maybe that sounds more calculated than it is.. but what can I say I'm a people pleaser! :) And truthfully it has helped me to think about myself in a more rounded out sort of way. <BR/><BR/><BR/>But more than anything I just have to say I really appreciate everyone's comments.. and I wouldn't blog if I didn't get them. I do this for the conversation and support that unfolds here. Sure it takes a little work and moderation on my part... but what I get in return is so worth the time commitment! I NEVER would have thought my blog would have such a large audience... so to everyone who reads thank you. And feel free to comment... I really do care that you read and what things you relate to. Your comments absolutely effect the direction of the blog.. so keep 'em coming!Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-14600796911022680732007-12-17T13:09:00.000-05:002007-12-17T13:09:00.000-05:00Julie,for a while (I can't remember why?) Mr F was...Julie,<BR/>for a while (I can't remember why?) Mr F was sleeping in a twin canopy bed in the "nursery"... for the life of me I can't remember why... we have 3 bedrooms. Anyway he is like a corpse when he sleeps he could sleep in a dining room chair so he doesn't care where he is assigned to sleep. When I go to bed I usually say something like "maybe one day we'll sleep in the same bed again... <I>if</I> it is a king size, you wear a muzzle, I am wearing ear plugs, and you promise not to cross the midline!"<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Gigs,<BR/>My favorite cousin (he's the youngest.. now in college) needed nighttime company for a long time. My aunt didn't get in bed with him (why I do not know?!?) she slept on the floor by his bed with her arm on him. Once he was about 10 when he needed her he would come up and sleep on their floor. He is <I>the</I> nicest, most loving guy. And NORMAL! And even in an adult relationship now. I mean he is so comfortable showing affection and sits with his arms around his mom and dad. Even as a teenager he'd <I>want</I> to be with them... and hold their hands!!! <BR/>As a parent I dream of that! :)Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-21415455475161312992007-12-17T12:51:00.000-05:002007-12-17T12:51:00.000-05:00Julie, at least I have a year before I reach the "...Julie, at least I have a year before I reach the "weirdo" age of 10! LOL, the age at which he's too old for all this seems to get older as he does! And you're right, I really do get a lot of insight to stuff he feels/thinks about at that time of night. It's a great time to connect.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-85110720333139366912007-12-17T10:39:00.000-05:002007-12-17T10:39:00.000-05:00And he will sometimes still ask me to get in bed w...<I>And he will sometimes still ask me to get in bed with him at night. Just to let you know, he is nine, and still loves cuddling. And I have to say that since he is my youngest, even at nine, he is still my baby.</I><BR/><BR/>Aww, gigs, you know I think that is adorable. I think that is the best time to talk with your kids/get info. as they get older...that time right before bed.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244649713390780027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-65927274091902803742007-12-17T10:26:00.000-05:002007-12-17T10:26:00.000-05:00I read all of this with a lot of interest. My husb...I read all of this with a lot of interest. My husband is a terrific, very involved father, but this sounds EXACTLY like something that would happen at my house. And I would definitely open up the door and let loose with how I felt about his choices. In fact, he always says (and I say "always" because stuff like this happens ALL THE TIME), "Don't you care that all the neighbors think you're crazy yelling out the door at me like that?". Um, no. And I'd appreciate it if you were more concerned about what I think than what the neighbors think!<BR/><BR/>Co-sleeping: we were never a traditional co-sleeping family, but we have always slept next to our younger son's bed until he falls asleep. And he will sometimes still ask me to get in bed with him at night. Just to let you know, he is nine, and still loves cuddling. And I have to say that since he is my youngest, even at nine, he is still my baby.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-14081943939665152292007-12-17T09:43:00.000-05:002007-12-17T09:43:00.000-05:00Okay, so I never did the co-sleeping thing, though...Okay, so I never did the co-sleeping thing, though I did nurse for as long as I possibly could between work and (in)sanity interfering. And I admire anyone who can do it. But I just wanted to add my 2cents about two things:<BR/><BR/>First, Mrs. F: "and yes.. I wish I had started blogging sooner!... it has allowed for me to have some adult company and conversation where there didn't used to be any." I can't believe I just figured this out a month ago!! Even if I don't comment all the time, I feel so much more sane and normal as a mom when I read what everyone else is going through. I will say, though, that on NONE of the other blogs I read is there such a great community as there is here. I've tried commenting on a few others, and it's like talking into a black hole in outer space: eventually the words hit someone who reads them, but it takes so many light years for a response to come back that I'm long gone by then. (And no one talks to each other.) So, kudos and thanks to you. (PS, what's your secret?)<BR/><BR/>And Deb, "Mrs. F, I had my hubby read your blog tonight. He's all, "That ramp looks really COOL!" Dude... did you miss the point entirely or what?" ROTFLOL!! That's precisely and exactly what my husband would have said. When really he should have said, "Oh, sweetie, thanks so much for shopping, wrapping and mailing all the gifts from us to my parents, your siblings, their kids, your parents, and my brother. And for finishing the painting, trim, and fixture installation in the recently-gutted bathroom so that our houseguests who will be here in four days can use it. And for doing all that while grading your end-of-semester papers and coming up with fun and interesting things for our kids to do on the two days a week that you are home with them. And for being my fabulous wife." ;-) So, that's my long way of saying you're not alone in the I-have-one-more-child-than-I've-<BR/>actually-given-birth-to thing.MommyTimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12860003098383600806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-25943690636849757462007-12-17T00:44:00.000-05:002007-12-17T00:44:00.000-05:00a couple months ago (yes after sucessfully sleepin...<I>a couple months ago (yes after sucessfully sleeping in her own room) Kid started sleeping in the guest room (Mr F's domain)</I><BR/><BR/>I am dying here laughing! The secret lives of family's sleep habits...this just cracks me up. Damn, why couldn't I have all of you moms in a playgroup or something! <BR/><BR/>For the record, Tom doesn't care if little one is in bed with us for any other reason than that little one grinds his teeth in his ear supposedly and tries to push Tom out the bed. I just snuggle that little one like a teddy bear. I will miss him being there. Thankfully he is small for his age because, remember people, the kid IS 6. If he is still sleeping with us when he is 10 and we are allowing it then we are officially weirdos. My husband thinks we or rather I am already a weirdo.<BR/><BR/>Frankly, I think my husband should just sleep in little one's bed, but he won't. Plus, one of our big, fat maine coon cats, Maxie, has taken that room over and sleeps on the bed. <BR/><BR/>My older kid sleeps totally on his own now and believe me, we did the whole co-sleeping with him. Then he did not want to be in our bed, he wanted me in his bed. It was like musical beds in our house for a while. I remember sometimes waking up in the morning disoriented, like who's frick'n bed am I in?? That was when my little one did actually sleep more in his room (with about 400 stuffed animals) so there were more rooms and beds to choose from.<BR/><BR/>I am happiest when I have both boys in bed with me.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244649713390780027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-10578880002854999252007-12-17T00:17:00.000-05:002007-12-17T00:17:00.000-05:00word.I don't know.. well I do know... I just plain...word.<BR/><BR/>I don't know.. well I do know... I just plain don't agree with CIO. But I'm willing to deal with what you have to deal with when you don't do that. I respect that many people (within our culture) don't agree with me. <BR/><BR/>I think that co-sleeping is a loving situation that meets the natural, instinctual, need of babies and small children to be protected while they are vulnerable (think about cave people.. I always do). Now true there aren't any predators in my house... but I believe kids are wired that way and that for many (not all) kids that they are most comforted sleeping with a parent. I believe that when you meet your children's needs they go away. I think when you push your child to do something before they are ready they develop "needy" behaviors (sometimes in seemingly unrelated arenas) to compensate. I also believe that developing a positive attitude towards sleep is very important and for me I believe being parented to sleep provides you with that... and don't really think crying to sleep does. THIS IS JUST ME.. so don't get all offended. If CIO is what you are comfortable with than my not being shouldn't bother you!<BR/>And most of all I KNOW that you will never look back and think... "I really wish I hadn't met all of my kid's needs...or... I really wish they slept through the night sooner."<BR/><BR/>Also and this is key I am married to someone who shares my beliefs. If your partner does not and resents the place your child has in your bed I can see that as being a problem and maybe co-sleeping isn't a good option for your family. Hell if you want to actually have a sexual relationship with your spouse co-sleeping might not be a good choice for your family! ;) I absolutely don't think getting divorced is worth keeping your kid from crying at night!Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-21958560153569691532007-12-16T23:48:00.000-05:002007-12-16T23:48:00.000-05:00My Christmas cards are done. Let's ignore the wra...My Christmas cards are done. Let's ignore the wrapping I have to do so I can get packages out tomorrow.<BR/><BR/>I keep a sippy cup of water and a snack bar next to our bed, because Kiddo likes to eat and sip at 4:30am. We're not nursing anymore, so I'm a-okay with a couple hours of food sitting on his teeth.<BR/><BR/>PreppyMama, many people -- doctors included -- will give you CIO advice at some point. When someone says, "But you HAVE to put him in his own bed," I reply, "Why?" If they keep going, I just keep asking why. Eventually, they run out of reasons. That's when I hit them hard with: "You know, I've looked around, and after 38 years of life, I have yet to meet a single person who was loved too much as a child." That pretty much kills it. You have to do what's right for your kid, end of story. Maybe there are kids out there who do just need to CIO. You know what kind of kid you have.<BR/><BR/>So, I'm taking over, Mrs. F. You sound busy with all that dog pee and stuff. Which reminds me, I should let the wolf pack out...Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13850825844277186930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-81753336811972051422007-12-16T23:03:00.000-05:002007-12-16T23:03:00.000-05:00torey,yikes...Baby woke up too! Might be a long n...torey,<BR/><BR/>yikes...Baby woke up too! Might be a long night..<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Amy,<BR/>"<I>once christmas is over, it's just on to the next crisis right?</I>"<BR/>word to that!<BR/>I'll barely come up for air before it is time to plan Baby's b'day. <BR/><BR/>and even though clearly it is a man thing and I do get that (kind of) it never ceases to piss me off.. just the constant presumption that I am on duty.... argh!Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-16993408621468215402007-12-16T22:52:00.000-05:002007-12-16T22:52:00.000-05:00don't even get ME started! i can clearly see how m...don't even get ME started! i can clearly see how much you hate how different men see parenting! it drives me insane when DH comes home and has a list of things to do, as if he assumes that i will just continue on with my "babysitting" and he doesn't have to worry about it at all! i hate that! i mean...buddy, you're home-that means you're fair game for parenting - i'm going out! i can totally see my husband doing THE EXACT SAME THING...and don't feel bad because i would have reacted similarly (with as heated anger too). chin up - once christmas is over, it's just on to the next crisis right?Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15167781724086312806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-65738514328175206542007-12-16T22:40:00.000-05:002007-12-16T22:40:00.000-05:00go figure as soon as i finished typing my comment,...go figure as soon as i finished typing my comment, guppy woke up crying. poor kid can't poop.<BR/><BR/>guess he'll have to sleep with us tonight!Toreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02199187774880581356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-1840179289222130292007-12-16T22:34:00.000-05:002007-12-16T22:34:00.000-05:00torey,It looks like no one is getting their Christ...torey,<BR/>It looks like no one is getting their Christmas cards done tonight! ;)<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>and back to my other comment... of course because I wrote it... Kid is sleeping in her own bed tonight!Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-29995035650991678502007-12-16T21:57:00.000-05:002007-12-16T21:57:00.000-05:00Oh my!! The obnoxious husband thing must be catchi...Oh my!! The obnoxious husband thing must be catching!! Something about a snowfall must bring it out in them. . .<BR/><BR/><BR/>On the co-sleeping front, our kiddo (Guppy) slept with us for about the first 6 months, and now (at 8 months, today. . .sigh where does the time go?) is almost totally in his own bed. He was a little wiggly fellow and stopped sleeping well in our bed. He would be up every hour (or 45 minutes as the sleep cycle dictates. . silly babies) and he wouldn't want to nurse, so he wouldn't go back down. Now he goes down at 8, wakes at 12:30, 3 and then 6 ish. On the weekends, *someone* gets him and brings him into bed at 6 and he'll happily sleep until 8 or 9. So I do think he was getting MORE sleep in our bed, but it was a different kind at a different time. We took one of the earlier opportunities that Mrs. F was talking about. I will say that I miss having him in our bed, but I know that hubby does not. I think though that we read his cues well and moved him when he was ready. It did take a little bit of crying (on his part and MY part) but it's made such a difference in him. He started napping on a much more regular schedule (not enforced by us, only by him) and he is generally happier.<BR/><BR/>I don't know if this was helpful to anyone or not. But it was long. . .and now I don't have time to address Christmas cards. . .oh well!!Toreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02199187774880581356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970661341243634764.post-66808905247021958492007-12-16T21:55:00.000-05:002007-12-16T21:55:00.000-05:00Preppy Mama,funny... I was wondering who Gina was!...Preppy Mama,<BR/>funny... I was wondering who Gina was!<BR/>here is the thing it goes so fast it really does and Mr F and I do not sleep in the same room (he snores anyway so I honestly don't miss it!) he gets to sleep straight through. But you're not going to have a twelve year old in bed. And I really did find that I was able to do it (now I can function on little sleep w/o going postal... usually) and Kid was able to transition when she was ready.. it really can happen! I actually forgot this little hiccup... for a while after starting to sleep through and not nursing she would wake up hungry and I would have to make her a sandwich and let her eat it in her bed.. then she'd go right back to sleep... I just figured she really was hungry at night. I buy into that kind of thing since I wake up hungry too :)<BR/>None of this necessarily relates but hey might as well put that out there!<BR/><BR/><BR/>Julie,<BR/>believe me I am a total freak. And I don't usually walk around disclosing everything we do because I'm not looking to have my mind changed on the subject and that is usually what goes down... I also don't ever want people to think I judge them for not doing everything I do... seriously folks I get that most people don't want to do this! <BR/>And I didn't want to say this because it might scare Preppy mama and Deb and because (really guys it isn't related) it goes against what I am saying.. BUT... a couple months ago (yes after sucessfully sleeping in her own room) Kid started sleeping in the guest room (Mr F's domain). It isn't (I swear it really isn't) because she needs/wants to sleep with Mr F... she just wants to sleep in that bed. So she goes to bed, and we are finally down to the good night and she goes to sleep in her room by herself phase, in Mr F's bed. He goes to bed like at 2 am and he just doesn't move her. So I guess technically they are co-sleeping now. Partly because Mr F was always jealous that I slept with the girls and always claimed (expecially when I was tired and having a hard time) that he would LOVE it. He isn't even trying to get her to sleep in her room. He could sleep in her room... but it is a little Ikea bed and so what is the point of that?Mrs Furioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082932653215907248noreply@blogger.com