I'm pretty sure we've been dealing with some sort of GT/LD. It all makes sense in retrospect. I had been attributing a lot of her school deficits to the OCD/anxiety when now I think it is probably just a processing disorder. All of her issues fit this. Extremely poor memory, difficulty writing out thoughts despite high comprehension, inability to break down multistep directions, etc.
Obviously, I was able to circumvent a lot of this at home. I have just read through all of the proposed modifications and it was like "yep, yep, yep...". Dictating or reducing written assignments, having directions broken down into one step processes, having math problems presented one at a time, have directions written and spoken and repeated back, etc. I had just naturally done those things as I learned how we could be most effective at home. I cared about comprehension and she has always been able to demonstrate that. Her very high reading level, comprehension of complex advanced subject matter, very advanced sense of humor... yet lack of ability to manage time, follow directions (or understand them), slow writing and extreme frustration/lack of ability to express herself through writing, poor memory (I've mentioned this with spelling/math facts), etc all fits this GT/LD. Our psychologist believes that Kid's issues are so subtle a school district test will probably not pick up what her processing issue is. We're going to look into getting a thorough outside neuro-psych (although she noted those can be too detailed and I know some of you understand that implication). I'm not sure what will happen after that. I don't think this school can accommodate (or will, or is the best place to) everything she really needs in order to be successful. So many simple things could be done, like emailing me the assignments, etc... that just aren't happening. Even my going in after school to copy the board assignments and double checking that she did all of that REALLY irritates the teacher. This woman really believes in a sink or swim mentality that is only going to result in failure.
I'm pretty sure we're in the worst possible school placement for this type of disorder.
I also think having an answer will be very validating and uplifting to Kid.
Then we'll see. Obviously, with that we could make better informed choices as we move forward.