Saturday, August 2, 2008
Friday, August 1, 2008
Good Fucking Grief...
I am really not happy about how my body has ... um... changed the last few months.
5 pounds and 5% more body fat has made a visible difference and I am not happy about it!
Thursday, July 31, 2008
Homesick
I knew it was going to be hard. Moving and unpacking is hard even if you aren't changing jobs and cities much less entire states. Moving and unpacking when you are a stay-at-home mom is even harder. It's easy to say "just get out and explore your new area"... but that is difficult to do with Baby even when I know exactly where I'm going and what I can expect. This is a kid who you really can't take out and about, and I'm saying that as a mother who was able to take Kid anywhere and everywhere. My point being it is not that I'm opposed to doing it... it is just the reality of doing it with Baby is more than I want to handle on a typical day. I was homebound most of the time in Ann Arbor but at least there I already had friends.
Making "mom" friends is hard. It is a lot like dating (except you can't count on alcohol to get you through the rough moments) and it takes the same amount of time and energy to find the right fit. And I'm going to let you in on a little secret (new moms close your eyes) it is even harder when you have more than one child. When you are a new mom and you have a baby there is some kind of pheromone you emit that attracts all new moms with the same age child... you see them EVERYWHERE and you are all obsessed with baby development and whatnot and it doesn't even matter that outside of that you technically have nothing in common.
When you have 2 kids it isn't like that. You need to find someone with kids in similar age ranges who get along with your kids (6 year olds seem to want to have a say in who their friends are those stinkers). You no longer want to talk about your baby you want to talk about laser hair removal and permanent birth control (or is that just me?). You don't care if your baby is drinking your iced coffee, let alone if they are developing "on time", if it buys you some time to talk to someone about something other than My Little Ponies for 10 minutes uninterrupted. It takes time to find someone who can be your friend and not just the mother of your kids' friends... and in the meantime I miss my friends tremendously.
Making "mom" friends is hard. It is a lot like dating (except you can't count on alcohol to get you through the rough moments) and it takes the same amount of time and energy to find the right fit. And I'm going to let you in on a little secret (new moms close your eyes) it is even harder when you have more than one child. When you are a new mom and you have a baby there is some kind of pheromone you emit that attracts all new moms with the same age child... you see them EVERYWHERE and you are all obsessed with baby development and whatnot and it doesn't even matter that outside of that you technically have nothing in common.
When you have 2 kids it isn't like that. You need to find someone with kids in similar age ranges who get along with your kids (6 year olds seem to want to have a say in who their friends are those stinkers). You no longer want to talk about your baby you want to talk about laser hair removal and permanent birth control (or is that just me?). You don't care if your baby is drinking your iced coffee, let alone if they are developing "on time", if it buys you some time to talk to someone about something other than My Little Ponies for 10 minutes uninterrupted. It takes time to find someone who can be your friend and not just the mother of your kids' friends... and in the meantime I miss my friends tremendously.
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Apparently
I'm not allowed to not like where I live... it is offensive to everybody who lives anywhere within a 10 hour drive of here.
No... seriously. It seems that people have strong feelings about Asheville. And here is the deal... I just got here! Give me a few days I'm sure I'll get used to it. It's not personal... really. I've just uprooted myself and my kids from my family and friends, with hardly a month's notice, to a place I had never been. To a place that is more of a city, and a bit more rundown, and a tad more expensive. The pawn shop, gun shop, used appliance store, and the "Gang Free Zone" signs on the public school a few blocks away aren't helping. The large daily cinnamon bun from the bakery up the street is. It is an adjustment. But is it not at all possible that Asheville isn't a "step up" from everywhere else in the world? I'm wondering... I mean really... isn't it at all possible that where we moved from was in fact nicer? Just putting that out there.
No... seriously. It seems that people have strong feelings about Asheville. And here is the deal... I just got here! Give me a few days I'm sure I'll get used to it. It's not personal... really. I've just uprooted myself and my kids from my family and friends, with hardly a month's notice, to a place I had never been. To a place that is more of a city, and a bit more rundown, and a tad more expensive. The pawn shop, gun shop, used appliance store, and the "Gang Free Zone" signs on the public school a few blocks away aren't helping. The large daily cinnamon bun from the bakery up the street is. It is an adjustment. But is it not at all possible that Asheville isn't a "step up" from everywhere else in the world? I'm wondering... I mean really... isn't it at all possible that where we moved from was in fact nicer? Just putting that out there.
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Almost Home... whatever that means
I'm packing the kids up tonight for a repeat of our adventurous trip up here... made all the more fun by taking place during dinner & bedtime... should be extra fun.
The weird part is that this will be our first time coming home to our new house... a house we really haven't lived in... a house that won't look anything like the last time we saw it. I'm not sure if seeing our furniture in it will be comforting or if it will be weird if not sad to see them in a different space. I'll let you know.
The weird part is that this will be our first time coming home to our new house... a house we really haven't lived in... a house that won't look anything like the last time we saw it. I'm not sure if seeing our furniture in it will be comforting or if it will be weird if not sad to see them in a different space. I'll let you know.
Monday, July 28, 2008
First Take On Asheville
I'm sure my feelings will change and evolve once I get settled in... but... in the meantime you can enjoy this little ditty recorded on my FIRST day in our new "hometown":
Sunday, July 27, 2008
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