Thursday, January 3, 2013

It Happened

My grandfather, Grandad, passed away this evening.  It was so peaceful that my uncle, who had been sitting with him, did not even know he had passed on.  I'm grateful for that.
(This was just taken on Saturday.  I wish I could find a better picture of him as I remember him... this is not how he looked before his health started failing. )

My grandmother called me and said "We have to be philosophical about it... We had 72 years together and what is better than that?"  She's trying to stay upbeat, but I worry about her once the shock wears off.

There isn't going to be a funeral, there will be a memorial later in the year... I am both sad that there won't be that family gathering time we had for my grandmother here last month, and relieved since I am pretty much emotionally spent.

My grandmother and grandfather will be buried together, their ashes mixed, after she passes away.

That is just about the sweetest thing I have ever heard.  I love that they are doing that.

Still it's been a rough month; losing two of my grandparents just 26 days apart.

Compounding the grief.

Oh, sad.  And I worry tremendously for my grandmother (whose 100th birthday is in 6 days!).

11 comments:

yummymummy said...

Mrs. F,
Just a reader...wanting to give my condolences about the passing of your grandfather. My thoughts are with you. You honor your relatives in your writing. Take Care, Susan

-amy said...

I'm so sorry for your recent losses Mrs. F. That you were able to spend some time with your grandparents and surround them with love as they were getting ready to make the most difficult transition has to be a huge blessing for all of you.

That you were able to spend time with your grandmother and wrap her with love when she was about to lose her life partner is just as important.

I am so thankful that you were able to make the trip. It is so beautiful that your grandfather and grandmother will be physically reunited some day. Thank you for sharing all of this with us, please know that even though we don't really know each other in real life, we are surrounding you and your family with love.

Julie said...

Oh Mrs F, so sorry.
I am glad it was peaceful.

Brenda said...

Sad for your loss. Love to you, Mr. F and the girls.

Preppy Mama said...

Oh Mrs. F, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Mrs Furious said...

Thank you, all, for the kind notes. I'm pretty heartsick today.

Not having a funeral is making it a bit harder, since I tend to find them cathartic since they push the grief feelings up, and instead I am just going about my normal life. Not really able to get a good cry out.

Sophies Lane said...

Mrs. F,

Long time reader, first time commenting.

I am so sorry you are going through such tremendous losses. I am happy for you that you got to make the trip out to visit one last time. I think the mixing of the ashes is just about the sweetest thing I have ever heard!

I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Here's to better days ahead!

Supermom said...

I'm so sorry Mrs F. I'm thinking about you and your family.

Gypsy Family said...

So sorry for your loss, especially so soon after your grandmother. :(

Gypsy Family said...

So sorry for your loss, especially so soon after your grandmother. :(

Mrs Furious said...

Sophie's Lane,
Oh, thanks for the comment, I really appreciate it.


Michelle & Vera,
Thank you, ladies.

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