Yesterday, in response to a post I wrote about why I find my choice to stay home with my children fulfilling, I recieved this comment:
"I can't tell if this post is meant to be serious or a joke. You really think that deciding whether to get a Happy Meal is intellectually stimulating? I think it's great that you're raising your kids on a full-time basis (and wish I could spend as much time with mine), but I wouldn't consider my life complete without my job. And frankly, it always surprises me when you talk about how busy you are. Laundry, cleaning, cooking, shopping, and working out... it's really not as taxing as you sometimes make it sound. Us full-time moms have to do what you do PLUS work. And I still think I'm a pretty wonderful mother."
Sorry people but I can't let this go.
It is interesting that this commenter is a "full-time mom" and I just take care of my kids on a "full-time basis". I also think it is interesting that this commenter is doing everything I'm doing plus working. Are you sure? Because last time I checked you're going to work during the day... and I'm taking care of my kids during the day. I assume that you are not taking care of your kids while you work... right? Someone else is doing that... and that is their job. You pay them to do it. Taking care of children from 9-5 is an actual job in and of itself. You don't actually expect your day care workers to also do all of your household tasks at the same time... right? Because focusing on your kids and being with them and paying attention to them, and feeding them is a job. So it makes sense that if I'm doing all that and trying to get other stuff done at the same time that I'd feel "busy". You know how you feel on a weekend (when your spouse is out of town)... you know how it is hard to get as much done as you thought you would?... that's what it is like during the week for me. Thanks for thinking "outside the box" on that one.
If you are a confident person who is secure and confident in your choices that will ALWAYS threaten someone who is not. And that person will inevitably try to tear you down to make themselves feel better. Which is exactly what the commenter did when they wrote:
"And frankly, it always surprises me when you talk about how busy you are. Laundry, cleaning, cooking, shopping, and working out... it's really not as taxing as you sometimes make it sound. Us full-time moms have to do what you do PLUS work" I wonder how that worked out for you Ms Anonymous? Did it actually make you feel better? Somehow I think not.
Also it bears repeating... that I don't care if you work or don't work. I don't care if you are a wonderful mother, a good enough mother, or a bad mother. I don't know you and your life has absolutely no effect on me. I only care that I am a good mother. And I am.
P.S. This is my blog. If you say something that is rude or disrespectful I'm going to post it. Period.