Mrs. Furious ... Recipes, Rants & Reality: Confirmation

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Confirmation

Oh. My. God.

That woman is a total idiot.

Thank God I got out while the getting was good.

I mean... COMPLETE moron.

29 comments:

SoonToBeMrsZ said...: OOOooOOOOo cant wait til tomorrow!!!; August 31, 2009 at 9:30 PM
STACI said...: ME EITHER! :P; August 31, 2009 at 10:18 PM
Mrs Furious said...: I'm uploading a video RIGHT NOW! Oh I can barely contain myself. I want to go in tomorrow and ask if she's a drinker. There is just no other explanation for this level of incompetency/forgetfulness. And I cannot stand incompetency.; August 31, 2009 at 10:34 PM
Mrs Furious said...: It'll take a few minutes to upload but it's HERE; August 31, 2009 at 10:39 PM
katieo said...: I'm guessing homeschooling is looking TOTALLY AWESOME right now. ;); August 31, 2009 at 11:02 PM
Mrs Furious said...: Katieo,
Seriously. This is the third time she has failed to *get* information I have given her. Now I realize she's just not paying attention (or she's a drinker). I really don't have a lot of confidence in her.
If I could get out tuition back Kid would be sleeping in tomorrow ;); August 31, 2009 at 11:10 PM
Julie said...: I just watched the video...I couldn't wait:)

Wow, she is an idiot. Plus, how rude, too, regarding her non-response to emails.

What is going to happen with a class parent? It is probably too soon to know.

It sounds like you have a kind of loser class as far as parent volunteers. That stinks. People always expect that others will do it or that their help is not needed. Every little bit helps.

Also, how absolutely annoying that this is all happening when you are PAYING THEM BIG MONEY to go to the school.; September 1, 2009 at 12:16 AM
Kiki said...: I'm having trouble with the video (me, not the video) but I'm DYING to hear what kind of crazy that teacher has going on!! Is this affecting Kid?; September 1, 2009 at 12:57 AM
Kniki said...: You need to speak to the head teacher and complain!; September 1, 2009 at 4:05 AM
Mrs Furious said...: Kniki,
It is the head teacher! I am debating talking with the Executive Director but they have all this bullshit mediation stuff and I don't feel like having to talk it out with the teacher. I would kind of like the ED to know... but... I'm afraid of getting more mad and frustrated and that I'll end up pulling Kid.; September 1, 2009 at 8:09 AM
Michelle said...: Omgoodness!!!!!!

How are you this morning? Calmed down?

Did you see her on the school run???

Details.; September 1, 2009 at 9:14 AM
Jenny O. said...: I can't watch the video right now because I am at work, however I have to mention something that is weighing on me. And you can do with this what you will, I just want to point it out in case it's something that hasn't occurred to you.

It would not be at all hard for this teacher to find your blog and read what you're writing which includes, albeit jokingly, that she might be a drinker. It would also not be hard for someone to send her the link to your blog. I know you've had some family problems before and I would hate to think anyone would be so mean-spirited, but you never know. They might just forward your words along to cause you further trouble.

It's just something to consider. I'm sorry you're having trouble but I do believe that sometimes, somethings ( like unkind words about your child's teacher) can come back to bite you.

I hope you take this in the spirit it is given, friendly advice. Do with it what you will. I enjoy reading your blog.; September 1, 2009 at 9:51 AM
Mrs Furious said...: Jenny O.,
No worries. There is actually no way to connect my blog to me. You can't goggle me and get this. And NO ONE at the school knows that I have a blog or what it is called. If I can't write about my life in an anonymous fashion without naming any names then there really is no point to my blogging. It's my personal outlet. The in-law thing was because they were given the blog address. Which is different. I'm not worried about it. Worst case they'd ask us to leave.... which would get us out of our tuition agreement... which wouldn't be so bad. ;); September 1, 2009 at 10:04 AM
SoonToBeMrsZ said...: Holy crap! She is a moron!!! I would sooo talk to the ED, maybe someone else has complained before, and you complaining will get some action!?!?; September 1, 2009 at 1:54 PM
Kate said...: I have to agree with Jenny O. Not to be all stalkerish - but I was just able to find out what I think is your full name (and your husband's full name) in a matter of minutes on LinkedIn, given what I've read here about your life.

Don't you think it's a possibility it might work the other way around? The Internet is a big place, and I think it is naive to believe that no one connected with the school would find your blog. Again, like Jenny O. I say this with the best of intentions.

I know you don't see your daughter at this school long-term, but at least for the short-term, she will have to have a relationship with her teacher.; September 1, 2009 at 6:39 PM
Mrs Furious said...: Kate,
I don't have a Linkedin account. I just searched my name on Linkedin and couldn't find it. I just searched my husband's page and I'm not listed as a connection. So I'm not sure you did find me. In fact you have to know my entire full name (which I don't go by) to even find my Facebook... and even that doesn't link back here.

That is the whole point with using a pseudonym.

And I think it assumes an interest in me (and knowledge about me) that honestly people outside of this blog just don't have. I'm totally willing to risk it. I don't think it's naive I think it's fairly realistic. I can't be paranoid. I'm okay with what happens. I've put thought and consideration into what I say and what I don't say. If someone in real life stumbled on this blog and recognized my picture (which is how it would have to happen) and read all my archives and found the week I was pissed with the teacher and knew who she was and reported it to her... etc... I think the chances of that are actually pretty slim.; September 1, 2009 at 7:56 PM
Mrs Furious said...: In fact I'm willing to prove it. If you think you found me send me a message. If I get it I'll let you know.; September 1, 2009 at 7:58 PM
Mrs Furious said...: Kate,
Yeah that's not me. Since I haven't worked in 7 years I don't have a professional network. And we don't live in Charlotte... and that isn't my full name... or where I went to school. That is my husband... but... again it doesn't link to the real or fake me ;)

I have really been incredibly careful.

And I do feel comfortable saying what I wrote as myself. I said it all to SEVERAL friends today ;) That's kind of the thing with me. If she found it and read it... I was feeling it. And that's legitimate. I tried my best to avoid conflict and she acted inappropriately. She pushed me and I'm allowed to vent my anger in a safe way as long as I'm not actually committing slander (which I'm not).; September 1, 2009 at 8:36 PM
Kate said...: Of course you are allowed to say whatever you want, it's your own blog! :)

Maybe it's just all my years in PR managing the reputation of a company, so I'm pretty risk averse. But I just don't see posting on a publicly accessible blog (with photos and videos of me speaking about it) something like this as venting in a "safe way." I have a blog and am always surprised by some of the Google searches that lead people to it.

But you've said you'd be comfortable if she found it, and that is all that matters.; September 1, 2009 at 9:36 PM
Mrs Furious said...: blogging vs bodily harm... believe me this is safer. ;); September 1, 2009 at 9:47 PM
Mrs Furious said...: I do want to make it perfectly clear... I am not writing this blog with the intention (or preference) that it be found out and read. In fact I've done everything in my power to keep this blog as anonymous as possible under the circumstances. But I had to decide long ago what I was going to write about and I believe in that decision. It has been a huge help to me personally to be able to fully express my feelings (good and bad) on a daily basis. It is precisely why I have been told people read this blog... because I allow a realness that most people would not be comfortable sharing publicly. I have very few things that I have decided to keep private and the rest is written from a place that does not in anyway mean to stir up trouble or slander anyone. I am comfortable that what I am doing is safe *enough* to allow me a full expression of myself without intentionally (and safeguarding as much as possible the likelihood) of anyone ever getting their feelings hurt.
When I get paranoid the content goes in the crapper. The blog becomes useless as an outlet and boring as all Hell to read.; September 1, 2009 at 10:22 PM
Jenny O. said...: I would never dream of doing something as awful as sending your Web site to the teacher and I hope no one ever would. My concern when I posted originally was that there are mean spirited people out there and, if they've read as long as I have and have any knowledge of the Asheville area they DO know exactly which school you refer to and it takes only one more step to discover the teacher's name. Also, I wasn't sure how many Asheville residents read your blog, but it's a small town and people know people, they talk, etc. I'd hate for you to get a name in town for teacher bashing on your blog. I've seen such things happen in our town, and it's hurtful to the blogger and to the person their anger is directed toward.

But, the bottom line is that if it doesn't bother you, then it shouldn't bother me. :); September 2, 2009 at 8:02 AM
Mrs Furious said...: Jenny O,
Very few locals read it. If more people did I wouldn't talk about it. It's one reason I have stopped trying to grow my blog. When we moved here I made the decision not to tell people I met, or promote the blog... as I had in Ann Arbor... since in the end I had wished I'd had more anonymity. While the financial end would be good... I know I wouldn't have the same level of freedom I feel now.; September 2, 2009 at 8:09 AM
Michelle said...: Can I say something?

I think a blog is a great way to express yourself.

Since I am a blogger I go to great lengths to know who is reading my blog.

There are counters and etc for that. A red flag can pop up in an instant.

Anyway, I don't think a blogger should have to worry about someone else running and telling someone they were talked about. Make sense?

For example:
I was arguing with my sister. I blogged about it. Knowing my sister didn't read my blog. Someone that we KNOW read it, printed it out and gave it to my sister. TOTALLY WRONG!!!!!

I told my sister and even my husband, "It's my BLOG, if you think you may read something that will hurt your feelings, then don't read it!" It's my personal public diary.

I am sorry you are dealing with this difficult situation with the teacher. I know that blogging about it makes you feel better. If anyone was to purposely share your blog then shame on them.

Keep blogging. Being honest! I love reading your blog!; September 2, 2009 at 8:30 AM
Jenny O. said...: Supermom,

I think you illustrated my point well- that you never know who might be reading your blog and what they might do with the material.

My point was simply that if you do put things out in the public like this, you have to be prepared for a possible backlash ( even though those people are wrong to send or print out the blog entry.) And in this case, the backlash could affect a child. However, Mrs. F said she is willing to take that risk,and you appear to be as well, so that's good enough for me. It's your blog.

My personal opinion is that I wouldn't post things that could be potentially harmful to relationships, like yours with your sister or the relationship Mrs. F has with her school. But that is my rule, for my own blog, and everyone has to set up their own blog to their degree of comfort.; September 2, 2009 at 10:55 AM
Mrs Furious said...: People I think this discussion is over. Obviously I do not agree and it is my blog.

I think that it is interesting what some people worry about and what some people do not. Everyone has there set of boundaries in life and in blogging.
I think that people who are more reserved assume that someone who posts more than they would, and be comfortable doing so, have not "thought it through". The truth is that I am just more open and less risk averse (in life... not just in my writing).

I'm well aware of what I post and by posting it I've acknowledged my comfort with that disclosure.

While I will post anonymously about real life events... I would not tell someone what I thought they should or should not write about. I don't think that it's my place. That's my boundary.

While I do realize and acknowledge that it is "meant well" I think it is fairly futile to try and convince someone who has made it clear how they feel that their comfort level is misguided or wrong... and does in fact border on offensive. Does that make sense?; September 2, 2009 at 11:47 AM
Jenny O. said...: "I think that people who are more reserved assume that someone who posts more than they would, and be comfortable doing so, have not "thought it through". The truth is that I am just more open and less risk averse (in life... not just in my writing)."

I think this is 100% true, and is exactly the spirit in which I wrote it, because I am more conservative and wanted to be sure you had thought it through. I was trying to be helpful to someone whose blog I read frequently and enjoy. We all do things sometimes that aren't thought through and in this case, I wanted to make sure you were comfortable with the risk you were taking. I thought it was a kind thing to do, something I would do for a friend. You replied that you were comfortable, and as I said before, that's good enough for me. It's your blog.

I hate that you consider the comments "borderline offensive," or that I was trying to convince you of something, because after my initial comment, I felt like it was a respectful and interesting back-and-forth conversation.; September 2, 2009 at 12:43 PM
Mrs Furious said...: Jenny O.
I don't harbor any bad feeling towards you... at all.
I do understand your motivation.; September 2, 2009 at 2:21 PM
Jenny O. said...: Thank you, I do appreciate that very much.; September 2, 2009 at 3:11 PM