When I left off I had just given Mr F (a mere acquaintance no less) a valuable piece of advice. So did he take it? Read on...
About a week or two after talking with Mr F in the dog park, and after our dog training had ended, I ran into him at the park. When you tell a 30-something man, that you hardly know, that you don't think his relationship is meant to be, you are taking a serious risk that you might in fact scare that person off. Also I felt, pretty strongly, that someone who needed to be told that indecision about a move-in four years into a committed relationship was probably a red flag... probably wasn't someone who was going to heed my advice. So when I saw him in the park it was almost with a sense of resignation that I even brought the subject back up.
During this time period, August 1999, I had been dating someone else from the dog park (it really is a romantic hot bed all you singles out there). Someone with whom I was becoming quite certain there was absolutely no future with. His incessant need to either talk about himself, or suggest I ask him questions about himself, was getting old and I was getting ready to move on. I only mention this because really, really, I had no ulterior motive in counseling Mr F, nor real interest in whether or not he decided to take his relationship to the next level, other than just plain old fashioned curiosity.
When we ran into each other there was the typical dog park chit chat and it wasn't until we were walking out of the park that I asked him about the move-in.
"So did you make a decision about moving in?" Mrs F asks having already answered her own question in her mind.
"Yep." was all Mr F said, a man of maddeningly few words at times.
"Oh... So you decided to move-in then." Mrs F concludes.
"No. We broke up." Mr F causually replied.
Well my jaw nearly hit the ground I was so surprised. Four years of commitment and it was over like that. "Do you want to live with me?" "I'm not sure.... let me ask the girl at the park... no I don't.... in fact I don't want to be with you." (I'm sure it was a bit more in depth than that but you get the gist) Hmm... I kind of felt badly for his girlfriend.
To Be Continued...