I hear you on the resentment thing. I have definitely made strides on that, but when my guys were little, it was tough.Baby is the cutest little thing!
Julie," I would have been really annoyed if that actually was Tom saying he had a resentment issue with me."LOL... literally made me bust out a big laugh.I'm with ya sister! ;)
Ohmygod. Cutest check-check EV-ER.
I'm glad you post these--I can totally relate. I have the same problem with needing things to be equal--feeling resentment, etc. I struggle with the *after-cleaning*--when someone (husband or 14-yr old) starts a "hotspot" where I've just spent the day clearing...or doesn't clean up after themselves in the kitchen I just cleaned and mopped...I FLIP. So, I end up thinking...should I just leave things messy and stay happy? Or clean and get steamed when they mess it up again? LOLI'm the kind of housekeeper who, once things are clean, can easily maintain it. That is, until husband comes home... ;)
My husband resents me when he thinks I don't help enough outside - I do help outside, but i probably don't do 50%. The way I look at it though he mows the lawn once week, yard maintenence, trims trees seasonally etc. and we have a huge yard...so it is a lot of work...but I know it isn't as much as I do in the house weekly/daily with vacuuming, picking up after the tornados(girls), never ending laundry, bathing kids, and so on, and so on. If division of labor was 50/50 in real life guys wouldn't have time to sit on the couch and drink beer.I Love Baby! Cute, cute.
I'm resentful already, and we don't even have the baby. But I will say that my husband has really, really stepped up his game and is doing much much more to help me out, and is willing to be flexible when I've been too tired lately to do my part. Thank god. Seriously cutest check-check ever.
mentioned the Target scuffs in my comments to today's post. Really envious but I just can't do the lining thing.
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Amy,No I hadn't seen that before.Totally awesome... thanks!!
Kat,"So, I end up thinking...should I just leave things messy and stay happy? Or clean and get steamed when they mess it up again? "That is exactly me. Exactly.
My Mom called me the "accountant" when I was a kid. The "fair" thing has always been tough for me probably mostly because I grew up in a large family. I still get really cranky when things aren't equal with my husband and I. How do you stop the cycle with your own kids?
Shelley,I don't do any yard/trash/car stuff and I still feel it isn't equal ;)Haley,I'm glad you enjoyed it ;)Heather,I feel ya... you know I do ;)
Suzy,Yes... fairness (or lack thereof) was a BIG deal between my siblings and I (still is sadly).
Life is not fair...the best you can hope for is justice...and that maybe not in this life but the next. Just let it go. Why? The resentment hurts you in the long run...is it worth it? And..letting it go doesn't make you weak..it makes you strong, enduring the hardship that is. Only a strong person can suck it up and move on.Change what you can, accept what you can't, and hope you have the wisdom to know the difference.Grace and peace...
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