Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Proof Of Life

Today was a big day... well I guess I should say this morning was a big morning. Weeks ago I had signed Baby up for a toddler class run through the public school system here. I had been looking forward to getting her out and about and a bit more social during our long days without Kid. Of course I had assumed I'd be fully upright and functional when I did that. Anyone who has attended anything like this knows that circle time involves a lot of sitting and up and downs and hookieing and pookieing. So I was a bit apprehensive to go today but I had also committed to our spot and didn't want to miss out on introductions and whatnot. In retrospect I needn't have bothered... as there weren't any introductions and no one even acknowledged my existence... but hey hindsight is 20/20.

I could barely sleep last night I was so worried about a lot of what was going to go into getting out of the house: getting Baby dressed, putting on her shoes, going down the front steps, driving, wearing something other than old yoga pants.... but most of all getting Baby in and out of her carseat. As any parent knows that can break your back... even when you're... you know... not broken. Baby fought me on most of the steps involved having gotten quite used to her new routine of getting up and staying in her PJs all day while she watches TV and eats cookies. But once out the door her attitude improved. When I opened the van door I said "Can you get all the way in your seat by yourself?" hopefully. "Yes I Do!" came Baby's enthusiastic response. And she did! She even took the time to pull all of her buckles out of the way before turning around and sitting down. Phew! That was way easier than I feared.

Even driving was better than I had anticipated. With the help of a cushy pillow I was virtually pain free. Then the parking lot happened. It was covered in ice... which I didn't notice until I had gotten us out of the car... or I assure you I wouldn't have gotten out. I was filled with real terror still able to vividly remember the pain of my first fall. To avoid it I had to tromp all over an uneven hillside which was not much better... especially since I had to carry Baby to do it.

We made it though. I proved that I can leave the house, that Baby can get in and out of the car... should some type of emergency arise. And that is important to know since feeling dependent all the time is not good for one's psyche. But the whole event ... which was less than an hour start to finish... wore me out. I mean I feel like I just ran a marathon and then was put through the "spank machine". I'm couch bound for the rest of the day. It was too early and I won't be making that mistake again.


Christy said...

Well, that sucks that people were so snobbish.

Staci said...

I'm happy to hear your first outing went well. Rest up!

AND YAY BABY!! She IS a big girl! :)

How cold is it there today? You mentioned the ice (which had me gasping out loud).

It is FREEZING here in the Artic MI. I'm glad you didn't have to go outside here.

Mrs Furious said...

I know meeting people was kind of the whole point!

It's not that cold... cold for here... but not MI cold. I think it is 38 now so probably 30 this morning. And yes if I was there I'd never leave the house!!!

I'm happy I tried to go though I was surprised that the car was not so bad (which was a big fear). Mostly I'm just physically exhausted... you really lose your strength quickly.

Supermom said...

Wow! That sounds like too much!

I hate that people were not social. I remember me and you having this talk before.

I am glad that Baby did really fabulous helping you! She really is a "pretty big girl".

I wish you'd let me do SOMETHING! Just because I have 4 kids doesn't mean I cannot help a new friend!!

Michelle :)

Mrs Furious said...

Hey if you want to come file the rest of my papers I'm not going to stop you!! ;)
I'll email you. I'm done doing stuff this week and if you want to bring the little ones over to play with Baby that would be awesome. We can watch TV.

Renee said...

Well, I'm glad you made it through the outing but wish people had been more welcoming....did Baby enjoy the class at all? What did you think? Would you recommend to anyone? That was a big accomplishment considering your injury but I know it must have felt good to get out of the house.

I'm already wishing it was spring and it really hasn't even been that cold yet...

Please let me know how the week is progressing-I'm more than happy to come another day-anytime. (Thursday could come without children).

Heather said...

YAY for getting out! I hated hated hated feeling dependent and well, trapped at home after I had the baby and was told to basically sleep all day. I wanted to be out gallavanting with my new baby, who insisted on being held instead of riding in the stroller most times, which was a delight on my infected incision.

But I did it -- and it DID make a huge difference in my psyche, just knowing that I COULD. Most days I made the choice to stay home and rest, but having the option out there was HUGE to my recovery.

So yay you! Now get some rest!

Gigs said...

So glad you were able to get out, so sorry the moms weren't warm and welcoming. Maybe it get better? At least you are feeling more self suffcient. go you!

Anonymous said...

I stopped taking my little ones to story time at the library, but when we did go, it was like that--some of the moms were kind of cliquish and the rest of us were very shy and quiet! It took months for me to get to know some of the other moms...

Baby is such a cutie! My littlest guy is just a few months older than her, and he is always interested in looking at her pictures on your blog! :)

Feener said...

yea !!! so glad, now cap the day off with the biggest loser and it is a good day

Robin said...

Good for you for getting out. Moms around here are like that, too. It's really frustrating.

Baby does not look happy about getting out. :)

Haley said...

Congrats on the outting -- bummer that the other moms weren't terribly sociable. If it make you feel any better, I've never suffered from a lack of friends, so I'm pretty confident that I'm not overly annoying or cootie-infested, but my latest grad school experience has been totally devoid of friends. I don't know what it is, but I just cannot make a fricking fracking connection with anybody this go-round. I guess those are just the shakes. It's just making me value my old friends more...I guess that's my take away message.

Be kind to your butt. :)

Deb said...

Ugh... I have found so many toddler events to be anti-social in the past couple years. I'm sorry people weren't warm.

Now you've got me wondering if The Ambassador can get in and out of his carseat on his own. I've never even thought to try. It's sort of like how I never thought about letting him try going down the stairs by himself (I always carry him) until I saw him do it with my sitter.

Mrs Furious said...

LOL on the stairs. That is hilarious. Hey it's worth a shot she was able to climb into the van up the seat and into her carseat with no problems... as she said ... "Yes I Do!". Seeing as she can also get herself on the counters I'm not sure why I didn't think she could ;)

and People that was just THE BEST m-f-ing episode of BL EVER!!!! I mean hands down. The bomb.

Feener said...

i LOVED biggest loser, i hate hate that jerry had to go, but so glad dan didn't go.....i CAN NOT WAIT TO SEE DAN AT THE END. did you see that one of the past winners gained half the weight back. it was on larry king, and he was fat again, it was so said.

Mrs Furious said...

BL spoiler alert!!!!!!!

I was crying my eyes out. I was crying during the mountain challenge I was so moved. Then I was LOVING the whole Bob freak out... Awesome... and then just balling when it came down to Jerry & Dan. So happy to see Jerry succeed at home!
I saw Eric the old winner on Oprah yesterday. O was being a total obnoxious bitch and overshadowed what he was trying to say.

Feener said...

i hate Oprah, hate her

what about when tara gave her phone call away...so sweet.

i still think they should have a reality show that has MOMS get a trainer and compete in a triathalon

Elizabeth said...

Good for you to leave the house! Things will only keep going up from here.

Way to go Baby, having a 'can do atitude. (Which I have tried spelling about four ways... have given up)

Gigs said...

Mrs. F., I know you meant bawling, not balling right? LOL! That really was the greatest BL episode ever...

Mrs Furious said...

Dang I hate when I do that!!! Yes bawling!

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