Friday, February 20, 2009

Pre-Teen Dichotomy



I couldn't help myself. This morning when I peeked in the girls' room I just had to share it with you. My niece is here for the week. She is twelve... as in the real twelve... not twelve going on twenty. She brought her cell phone and her doll.

Her visit reminded me of something. I different time when I wanted to be somewhere else.

In July 1999 I sat on the sweltering wood dune steps overlooking Lake Michigan. I was with my nieces. My older niece was 6. She said she wished I lived in Michigan. I looked at her and told her I would... in about 2 years.

I have always loved my nieces like you love your own children. They were born to young parents and I spent the first year and a half of my oldest nieces life still at home... and was able to spend a lot of time with her. Then I went to college and stayed working in New York. I was always heartbroken to be missing out on their lives. So when she said she wished I was in Michigan I wished it too and I wanted to make that come true.

I couldn't have known all the things that would come to pass in the following two years. Not even a week later I met Mr F. I had a job and a life. But two years and one week after I had that talk with my niece... Mr F and I moved into our house in Michigan just a mile from my nieces.

And it isn't that I was trying to fulfill my two year promise. It just happened that way. I had actually completely forgotten about that foreboding conversation at the beach. But everything lined up. Of all the people I could have met and married... I met Mr F who didn't balk at leaving New York or moving his business. Moving to Michigan made perfect sense to him.

So my point is this... long before "The Secret" (which I have actually not read) or vision boards... having a direction for your life can lead your life to that outcome. I really believe that. And so I will be thinking of New York (or maybe DesMoines or Madison... or Rome...).

17 comments:

Heather said...

Read this dude: http://runhlrun.blogspot.com/2008/09/three-years-ago-today.html

I set my intentions, and it happened. Just like magic.

Jennifer said...

So I was reading an article on the 10 cheapest places to live in the United States and this is #7 ...

7. Cornelius, North Carolina

Nearest major city: Charlotte
Population: 17,290
Median household income: $87,016
Median home price: $206,000
Unemployment rate: 3.3%
Violent crime index: 48


Is it near Mr. F's job? Although I'm not sure what the whole violent crime index is ...

Renee said...

I really like the idea of visualizing/setting your intentions and making it happen..I'm going to start working on this but first I have to figure out where my ideal place to live would be!!!!

I saw the article on cheapest places to live and am frankly quite shocked that Cornelius is listed...I lived in Charlotte and some friend's parents have a house on Lake Norman-very exclusive and expensive in my opinion but maybe I didn't see the other parts of Cornelius?

Mrs Furious said...

Jennifer,
How can that be one of the cheapest places? I'm thinking median income of 87K and median home of 206K is pretty high. For medians you know?
And sadly we don't make 87K...

Haley said...

I do a lot of visualizing (i.e. daydreaming) but I think it would be helpful for me to put it into a concrete form like a vision board. The one issue I'm having with the vision board is that so many of the things I want don't have a physical form. For instance, I want to reach a headspace where I feel completely comfortable with my body, but I don't think putting a picture of a woman with a body I admire on my fridge really gets at the root of that desire.

Although, I suppose sticking Kate Winslet on my fridge couldn't hurt...

Kiki said...

Visualizing myself fit, not thin, eating properly and way more active this summer. I am going to go places and have more fun. I haven't read the Secret either, I was on a plane freaking out (full on anxiety attack) and the attendant comes over (trying to be helpful, but not getting it) and hands me that book and says that I'll feel better if I read it. Who was she kidding, I have to concentrate all my energy on keeping the plane in the air with sheer will......after that flight I just have no urge to read that book. Childish...maybe.

Mrs Furious said...

Kiki,
I don't think you have to read it. I have no intention of reading it either. Its just about putting out the positive energy and having it come back to you. Instead of "I'm fat and lazy" ... "I'm going to be fit and energetic this summer."


Haley,
That 's interesting. Do you have a picture of yourself from a time when you did feel that way?


Renee,
I'm going to have to see that list. What is it based on?

Torey said...

Yeah I agree that Cornelius can't be that cheap to live. Lake Norman is WICKED expensive. It's a GIANT man made lake with McMansions and yachts. . .
We drive through it all the time when we're heading down and back.

SO why didn't Ann Arbor make the list again?? And why didn't we hear more about NieceFurious before now?

Mrs Furious said...

Torey,
well while I would move back to AA in a heartbeat there is no job opportunity or future for Mr F there.

As for my niece I typically try not to blog about my brother or his family too much. But she'll be here for a week and is bound to show up in something.

Haley said...

Sadly, no -- that would've worked! I'll figure it out. :)

Christy said...

Why Des Moines?

Mrs Furious said...

Christy,
Meredith Publishing is there... they do Better Homes & Gardens and many other magazines. Its a good place job wise for Mr F... cost of living is much less and Iowa has top notch public schools. It's not NY... but for us as a family it's a step up from here.

Mrs Furious said...

Haley,
Just put up a big picture of me ;)

Amy said...

Picture yourself in Indianapolis -- great place to raise a family, reasonable cost of living, and close enough to Michigan to visit.

I have a 12 yo dd and she would have shown up to your house with a doll and an iPod, simply for the fact that she's not allowed to have a cell phone until high school.

Haley said...

ANOTHER one?? Isn't the collage and the life sized papier-mache pinata enough?

Mrs Furious said...

Haley,
LOL


Amy,
We have discussed it. Last time Indianapolis Monthly came up I think we felt it paid too little. Now we know we can live on that so in a way it's opened up more possibilities.

SK and Family said...

I love it--the doll and the cell phone. :)

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