Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Now You Tell Me

"If you wait for sex to happen spontaneously it ain't going to happen."

15 comments:

julie said...

Um, okay, do tell more about this one...I'm wondering if Mr. F said this to you...hee hee.

Mrs Furious said...

LOL. No.
It is what that sex therapist Dr Berman said on Oprah.

In our relationship Mr F is the non initiator. I actually wrote it down and came running into the office to tell him what she said. ;)

Supermom said...

Ha Ha!!

I knew that!

Hell, with all these kids running around I am shocked we had time to actually get pregnant with Baby M.

Hmmmm....I guess I better buy a special "day planner" just for that!

Me, Myself and I said...

I am the guilty one there. I love to feel wanted. Guess I need to work on that. Maybe. How often is not enough? Three times a week here... is that good or bad???

Marie said...

Oh definitely..totally agree with that statement. Before kids, spontanious was NOT a problem. Now, any time between 6am-7pm, there is always a kid hanging on one of our legs...after 7pm is cleaning/TV/computer/talking/enjoying the silence time. Then we (ok, I) am so freaking exhausted that sleep trumps all!

Lately dh (definitely the initiator!!) has started claiming naptime as "us" time (hey..sometimes 5 minutes with a lock door is all you need!). Or he tells me in the morning that we have "plans" tonight. Spontanious..no. Still fun..definitely! Otherwise we'd still only have 1 child!!

(and honestly, a little romp makes our relationship better..we fight less and laugh more..go figure!)

Dana said...

Seriously...I'm usually not this forward, but does anyone else have the same "problem" I do? I'm 29, my husband is 40 and for real, the roles have switched. I'm the sex initiator now where as 5 years ago he was.

I wonder why that is!

Robin said...

Hahahaha!!

julie said...

Three times a week here... is that good or bad??? We are lucky if it is 3 times a month in this house...

In our relationship Mr F is the non initiator Hmmm...I wonder how Mr F feels about all of us knowing this bit of information about him;) Give her some sugar, Mr F:)

Mrs Furious said...

Dana,
I'm in the same situation. I'm 32 Mr F's 40.

Me, Myself & I,
LOL... um... 3x a week is GREAT. I did a sex poll last year and you'd be surprised how many people aren't doing it.

Julie,
I wanted to do a video of our discussion last night and he said no... but you all missed out because it was hysterical!!!
And 3x a month?! slow down!! You've got us beat 3 fold ;)

Supermom said...

3 times a week!! Stop bragging!! LOL. We are lucky to have sex 3 times a month.

Seriously, my husband is 45 and I am 34 and he mostly initiates sex. After taking care of 4 kids, cooking and cleaning it is often not something I think about.
I am glad he doesn't give up on me. I know I am the one that needs to make time for sex.

Marie said...

Here's a weird thing...the longer it is since we "you know", the less I want to. But when we do, then I'm like we should do this WAY more often...

Mrs Furious said...

Marie,
Oh totally!

julie said...

And 3x a month?! slow down!! You've got us beat 3 fold ;) Honestly, it is not even nearly that, but we sound like sexless losers if I said the actual truth;)

I suppose we could get creative and find the time or place, but neither of us really feels like making that kind of effort. Again, sexless losers.

Marie, that is so true!

Mrs Furious said...

Julie,
" but neither of us really feels like making that kind of effort"

Every so often we have a discussion where we talk about trying to make more of an effort... but it is always followed by "but not tonight." ;)

Renee said...

OMG-3 times a week-my husband would be thrilled!

It does ease my mind a little to know that I'm not the only one that seems to be having issues in this department...completely opposite in our relationship though Mrs. F-my husband is DEFINITELY the initiator or we'd probably never have sex-its pathetic but true!

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